How many of you have good solid relationships in your life? If so how wonderful is your life with them in it? I bet pretty well. Life is so much better when we have great relationships. Can you think of someone which whom you do not have a good relationship? Can that relationship be made better?
I have learned over the years how to build upon the current relationship to make it better. Any relationship can be improved if one knows how to go about it. Yes communication is important, but what and how to communicate is even more important.
Does complaining about your life, your job or your current financial situation make that person want to be around you more often or like you better? I bet not. But that is communicating right? Well yes and no. That is communicating your feelings about something but that is not what I mean about communicating with the person who you want to improve that relationship with.
There are two ways to communicate, (well there are many ways to communicate but we are going to address two here in this series). One way is to effectively let the other person know you care about them in a way that not only do they believe you but it tugs at their heart strings. And the other is to effectively let them know how you feel.
When I was in college I got into this rut of spending most of my time complaining about things I didn’t have. I went through a lot of relationships this way. A lot, no, most people did not want to be around me. The worst part is that I knew why people would avoid me like the plague. I complained about everything? I was negative and had a victim mentality to the point that I drove any potential friend right out the door.
It wasn’t until years later, in my 30’s that I wanted more for myself then this. I wanted to feel good about my life even if it wasn’t where I wanted it to be yet. I was tired of feeling bad about myself. I was holding way to many pity parties where no guests showed up. I was ready to step out into the sunlight and claim my victory.
Now it did not happen overnight but I will tell you what did happen overnight. I obtained something more than this victory. I received hope in my heart telling me that I made the right decision. I never felt like this before. I was at the end of one of my many unhealthy relationships and frankly I had hate in my heart for this person. I never wanted to have that feeling ever again and actually I never have. I have been grateful since then for all the other relationships that I have had that led me to this point in my life to make a change.
Are you at the bottom of the barrel and wanting to see the sunshine? Well maybe all you need is to make the choice too. I am not going to talk you into anything or try to get you to see my point, if you are ready then you're ready if not then you're not. I traveled my path and I am happier, more confident, and an independent person because of it.
I purchased a book that I will never forget. It helped me see hope for what it actually was. It was my choice. I could have it or not. There was no one around who was going to hand it to me or take it from me. I had the decision to make and I choice to go for it. What did I have to lose?
So I ask you how much more misery are you going to endure before you make the choice to climb out of your barrel? Are you ready to create better relationships in your life?
Then please stick around and grab a seat there are more Life Series blogs to come.
Til then Be at Peace~!