When Your Journey Becomes Clear

Are you clear about what you want? Do you have any idea what things or experiences you would like to have in your life? I bet you can come up with some things right off the bat, but can you get to the real meaning of your life and where you are headed? I have a hard time coming up with what I am doing here. I know I love to help people, but I also want freedom and money to boot. How can I have both, money and freedom? How can I be of service to people and still have my free time? Do you ask similar questions?

I was a victim of my environment. I had some mishaps as a kid and went through some instances that kept my self esteem low and my confidence in the toilet. I was raised by a single mother and only saw my dad three or four times a year. My mom did the best she could do under those circumstances. And needless to say I am sure my brother and I were a handful. She was miserable when I was growing up. She was also a victim, or at least had that victim mentality. So I thought I must also adopt that mentality too. I too became miserable. I was an angry kid fighting for my life in grade school and later in high school. Fighting to be accepted, to be liked, to make it through elementary and high school alive.

I was an outsider looking in and wondering why other kids didn't like me much. I had only a few good friends and didn't trust very many adults. But don't we all have issues? Didn't we all grow up in less than perfect homes? Every single one of us has our "crosses to bear" if you will. and we all have our journeys to endure while we are here. Some struggle with confidence, self esteem, trust issues, fitness, health, intimacy and so on.  So how can we help each other if we don't share the same issues?

Here is a short story that helped me get on the right path and maybe it can help you too. It's been close to 10 years ago now, when I asked myself, "is this it?"  "There has got to be a better way." A better way to find and sustain love, trust other's, make money, get fit. All of those things kept coming up in my mind as I hit my mid 20's.  If you ask yourself a question you will probably get an answer. I believe we all have the answers that we need to make it through this life, we just need to ask.  We are not handed the desire for greater things without also being handed the tools to achieve those things. But how to we get to those tools? We have to start asking ourselves questions. Asking questions will raise our brain capacity. So we can learn new things and adapt to change and make life long decisions that will affect us later on in life.

So how about starting to expand your brain capacity by being more open minded about new things. Read more, ask more questions, spend time with more people who are going places.  If you spend time with people who are stagnant in their lives, you too will become stagnant. Is that what you want for yourself? Ever had a conversation with someone who was an avid reader and talks completely over your head? Well it's like that, but you become the person who might talk over everyone else's head. Ever had an opposite conversation? Where you are trying to give simple advice to someone who just can't "see" what you're talking about? They are not ready (emotionally or mentally) to handle the information you are giving to them.

I am not saying become something you're not. I am saying that if you are not clear about your journey, then you should spend more time asking questions like: Why am I here? What is my purpose in life? How would I like to spend my time if all I had was time and money? If I were not afraid what could I accomplish?

See these questions is what expanded my brain capacity, and I am now NOT a victim but a victor. I have accomplished more in these past 10 years on a personal level than I ever would have in the victim state of mind. You don't want to take ten years? Well I didn't either and who's to say that your's will take that long. But if you don't start then forever is a really really long time to wait.

Start today. I think in the long run you will be happy you did. Trust me, it was the best decision I ever made. Make a decision to start your journey with questions. And don't stop until you get the answer that feels right.

The book I would highly recommend for your first read to increase your clarity is: